Dating, decoded.
By the numbers.
Honest writing on Cost Per Nut, compatibility science, and how to make smarter decisions about who you date.
·2 min read11 Cities Where You Can Take Dates for Cheap (2026 Edition)
Eleven cities with the lowest average all-in date cost in 2026, ranked by real spend data from nuttr users.
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·2 min read8 Top Ways to Keep Dating Cheap (Without Looking Cheap)
Eight cheap date ideas with real average costs. How to date well on under $25 without signaling you're broke.
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·2 min read5 Ways to Track Your Cost Per Nut (Ranked by Effort vs. Accuracy)
From a notes app to a purpose-built tracker — five real ways to measure your Cost Per Nut, with the tradeoffs of each.
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·2 min readTop 7 Ways to Keep Your Cost Per Nut Down in 2026
Seven practical, data-backed levers to lower your Cost Per Nut without becoming a cheapskate. Real numbers, real tradeoffs.
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·2 min readThe Four Horsemen: Spotting Relationship Killers Early
Gottman identified four communication patterns that predict divorce with 94% accuracy. Here's how to spot — and track — them before you're six months deep.
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·2 min readThe 5:1 Magic Ratio: Why Positive Interactions Matter
Stable couples maintain 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative. Couples headed for divorce sit near 0.8:1. Here's how to actually count.
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·2 min readAttachment Styles & Compatibility: A Tracker's Guide
Anxious, avoidant, secure, disorganized — your attachment style is the lens you read every signal through. Here's how to identify hers and yours, and what the data tells you about long-term odds.
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·2 min readLove Maps: How Well Do You Really Know Her?
Gottman's "Love Map" is the part of your brain that holds her inner world. Couples with detailed maps stay together. Here's how to build — and track — yours.
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·2 min readBids for Connection: The Tiny Moments That Predict Longevity
Gottman tracked newlyweds and came back six years later. Couples still together had answered 86% of each other's small bids. Divorced couples? 33%.
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·4 min readWhat's the Average Cost Per Nut? Benchmarks by City & Age (2026)
Self-reported Cost Per Nut benchmarks from 2026 data: averages by city, by age group, by relationship stage, and what 'normal' looks like for single men in 2026.
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·4 min readThe 5 Best Cost Per Nut Trackers in 2026
We compared every credible Cost Per Nut tracker — purpose-built apps, spreadsheets, budget apps, and journals — across tracking, compatibility scoring, charts, privacy, and price. Here's the ranked shortlist.
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·7 min readCost Per Nut: The Complete Guide (2026)
The definitive guide to Cost Per Nut — what it is, how to calculate it, what's a good CPN, how to lower it, and why it's the most honest metric in modern dating. Updated 2026.
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·5 min readHow to Track Your Cost Per Nut in 2026 (Step-by-Step)
A practical, no-fluff guide to tracking Cost Per Nut. Setup in 5 minutes, exact fields to log, common mistakes, and the daily 20-second routine that makes it stick.
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·4 min readHow to Track Dating Spend Without Being Weird About It
A practical, non-cringe guide to tracking what you spend on dating. Categories that matter, the tools that work, the mistakes that make it weird, and how it actually improves your dating life.
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·2 min readWhat is Cost Per Nut? The Honest Dating Spend Metric
Cost Per Nut (CPN) is the unit economics of your dating life — total spend divided by total encounters. Here's how to calculate it, why it matters, and how to lower it.
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·3 min readThe Gottman Compatibility Score, Explained
What the Gottman Institute's four decades of research tell us about predicting relationship success — and how to score your own dating life against it.
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·2 min readIs She Worth It? A Dating Spend Framework That Doesn't Lie
A 4-step framework to figure out whether the woman you're dating is worth your time, money, and emotional bandwidth — using Cost Per Nut and a compatibility score.
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